It’s okay to know that ending a relationship is sometimes an act of love. You need to love yourself and the other person enough to know that while both of you are good people individually, being together would only cause pain.
As we sat opposite each other, he kept emphasizing that he was at his wit's end. His relationship was ending and there was nothing in him that was willing to fight for it.
I listened to my friend talk about how much he had endured, how much he had tolerated, and how much pain he had gone through in his relationship. Some days, we spent hours on a phone call, trying to understand the behavior of his girlfriend but I could clearly see that just because we were both female didn’t mean we were the same.
I had once advised him to end the relationship but my friend didn’t want to; something in him kept pushing. They had lasted for years, he couldn’t throw everything away.
Now, he was ready to let things end. He finally gave up.
That day, as I looked into the same eyes that had once happily told me how he met his girlfriend, my heart clenched, when does love end?
When do you decide that you no longer want to fight for the other person? When do you decide that love isn’t enough to keep you two together? When does letting go become the better option?
Does love end when you lose the spark that lights up your eyes whenever you behold the object of your desire? Does love end when you try so desperately to remember what first attracted you to your partner because all you see now are imperfections? Imperfections that would never go away.
Does love end when choosing yourself every day becomes the more stable and reasonable option than choosing your partner?
When does love end?
Till next time,
Love and light.
….If you’ve gotten to this point, choose the love of Jesus first because He loves you. God’s love never ends.
I've never fallen in love nor been in a relationship, but I'd say this. One thing I've learnt because I refuse to adhere, leaving things in the hands of God. God is love and if you can love him, put your love/relationship into His hands, I believe He would take it up. Yes, that doesn't guarantee you'll end up with that person, but He will show you. You won't just keep falling out. He knows what to do and what it's best.
As someone who almost went through a break up just a few days ago, this broke my heart.
A part of me was done with the relationship but I couldn't move forward with it. What would happen to all the beautiful memories and plans we had shared?
A part of me still thinks I've just postponed the breakup. But as long as both parties are still interested, I believe there is still hope.